Admit when you are wrong – Sunday Magazine – The Guardian Nigeria News – Nigeria and World News

After you have annoyed your spouse, your co-worker, your boss, or even your young child, the ability to apologize from the heart is a sign of humility and a quality spirit. Some people never admit when they are wrong. Never!

Many people, even after realizing they are wrong, find it very difficult to admit this. Admit when you are wrong and humbly ask for forgiveness from your spouse, pastor, or anyone else you have offended.

To do this, you must first realize what your mistake is and how it hurts the other person, and then you must offer a sincere apology. A man who knew he was wrong refused to openly apologize to his wife because he thought this would give the woman dominion over him. One woman also felt that apologizing to her husband would not help her. She felt like her husband would broadcast it wherever she apologized.

This is not the way a mind that wants to grow should reason. Marriage is not a matter of who has more power, but of who is willing to forgive and remain faithful. If a partner wants to broadcast it everywhere you’ve apologized, let him/her do his/her thing. He/she advertises his/her immaturity and cold-bloodedness.

A woman became very bitter after her husband divorced her for infidelity. She was saddened by the divorce and felt the matter could have been resolved amicably. When asked, the man said that he had not divorced his wife because she had committed adultery, but because she was defending herself. He explained that after she was caught, she cried and confessed that she was wrong.

At that point, the man was ready to forgive her, but she ruined it by lashing out and saying, “It’s your fault. I know I shouldn’t have done it, but you pushed me. You refused to appreciate me and he did.” He then divorced her.

The point I’m trying to make is that it’s completely unnecessary to defend yourself when you’re wrong. Many people have a natural defense machine within them. They immediately become defensive, not only when they are blamed, but also when they need to be corrected. This is wrong!

When you start to justify your actions and defend yourself after an apology, the person you are apologizing to thinks that you really have no remorse or remorse. If you do something to offend or hurt someone else, the simple thing to do is: “I admit I’m wrong, or I’m really sorry,” saying it sincerely from the heart is enough to start the process of reconciliation to bring. But if you start defending yourself and making all kinds of excuses for your actions, it hardens the other person’s heart and makes reconciliation difficult. Please don’t say again that you have a reason to do the wrong thing.

Please, please, don’t use these words: “I’m wrong for a reason.”

Don’t repeat the words, “I can explain.” The only satisfying explanation you can give is to simply give in and apologize until the person who hurt you is satisfied. Love you!